Daraba as Beating Wife Violates Verse 4:19

Blind faith in men is dangerous. Nothing but the twisted meanings of the Quran verses are an example of this. Apparently, it is religiously claimed that verse 4:34 tells husbands to beat their wives. This corruption stems from the hadiths. Here is one example:

Lo! My last recommendation to you is that you should treat women well. Truly they are your helpmates, and you have no right over them beyond that - EXCEPT IF THEY COMMIT A MANIFEST INDECENCY. If they do, then refuse to share their beds and HIT THEM WITHOUT INDECENT VIOLENCE . Then, if they obey you, do not show them hostility any longer. Lo! you have a right over your women and they have a right over you. Your right over your women is that they not allow whom you hate to enter your bed nor your house. While their right over them is that you treat them excellently in their garb and provision

Plenty of women have already become victims of physical assault because of this ugly corruption. The criticism raised against it has forced some of the scholars to lurk around the following tafseer:

Men are the support of women as God gives some more means than others, and because they spend of their wealth (to provide for them). So women who are virtuous are obedient to God and guard the hidden as God has guarded it. As for women who are averse in behavior, talk to them persuasively, leave them alone in bed and tap them (like a doctor would tap a patient - lightly), if they open out to you, do not seek an excuse for blaming them. Surely God is sublime and great.

This does not do justice either. Daraba still means hitting. What we need to remember is that Quran does not contradict. This is the formula to knowing what Allah tells us to do. The truth is that daraba's meaning as beating ferociously violates the following verse:

4:19 O you who have believed, it is not lawful for you to inherit women by compulsion. And do not make difficulties for them in order to take [back] part of what you gave them unless they commit a clear immorality. And live with them in kindness. For if you dislike them - perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good.

Notice how Allah forbids the use of force on women. But whether decent beating or tapping, they all directly tell the husbands to make wives obedient through force, violating 4:19. Those who stick to the idea that daraba means separating are, therefore, right. Do remember that even in the case of "clear immorality" Allah does not instruct the men to beat their wives.